Dad’s Touching Explanation for Why He Still Helps His Ex-Wife After Divorce

Last October, Billy Flynn Gadbois, a divorced father of two boys, wrote a Facebook post about how he woke up early to buy flowers, cards and breakfast ingredients so his kids could surprise their mom, his ex-wife, on her birthday.  Within the post, Gadbois went on to explain his actions by stating he is raising “two little men” and that “the example I set for how I treat their mom is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women.”  Earlier this month the post went viral after it was shared by the Love What Matters Facebook page.  In speaking with the TODAY Show, Gadbois explained that he and his ex-wife decided early on that they were going to put the effort into co-parenting.  He went on to admit that peaceful co-parenting after a difficult divorce can be easier said than done – but Gadbois believes it’s worth the effort.

The goal of co-parenting after divorce is simple: Like any other parent, you want to ensure that your kids are happy, healthy and set up for success in their future endeavors. But when it’s a constant struggle to see eye to eye with your ex, keeping that goal in mind requires work.  To help you stay on track, here are some tips for reducing stress while co-parenting:


  1. 1. Go into it with the intention of having a compassionate and supportive co-parenting relationship. Regardless of who ended the relationship, make the decision that if you can’t be great together, then you’re going to commit to being the best co-parent you can be.
  2. 2. Remember the qualities about your ex as a parent that you admired when you were still together. Just because he/she is no longer your partner doesn’t mean they’re not a great parent! Try to keep the other parent’s best qualities at the forefront of your mind and remember that you’re in this together.
  3. 3. Try not to talk to anyone and everyone about a decision that you two, as parents, need to make. While speaking with others can help you sift through different ideas, when it comes to what is best for your children, under your own unique set of circumstances, the opinion that matters the most is that of the co-parents.
  4. 4. Keep to previously agreed schedules and arrangements yet be open-minded and flexible enough to realize that plans will occasionally have to be changed. Be gracious and understanding and mindful of how you’d like to be treated.
  5. 5. Do what you can for the other person. It will come back you – If in no other kind than peace of mind.

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About Jennifer Lemanowicz

Jennifer attended College of Charleston in Charleston, South Carolina, before being awarded a Merit Scholarship to Widener University School of Law. Following law school, Jennifer worked for a general practice firm where she gained experience in a variety of legal areas, including family law, non-profit law, and estate planning and administration. Jennifer joined LaMonaca Law as an associate in 2015, and concentrates her practice on matters of family law, including all aspects of divorce, support and custody proceedings. Jennifer is a whiz with a spreadsheet and is a member of the firm’s Forensic Support Team, which specializes in cases involving high value assets or complex marital estates. Jennifer is a member of the Pennsylvania Bar Association, as well as the Montgomery County and Delaware County Bar Associations, and she was recently recognized as a “Best Lawyer” by the Delaware County Daily Times. Outside of work, Jennifer enjoys listening to true crime podcasts, going out to eat with friends, and spending time with her family.