I’m Thinking About Divorce; Now What?


I’m Thinking About Divorce; Now What?

Ending a marriage is a difficult decision to make.  It comes with a lot of uncertainty and questions.  This is where an experienced family law attorney can help!

What are your goals?

Many family law attorneys hear that someone is thinking about divorce, and they go right into the nuts and bolts of the legal process.  A better place to start is getting to know why you’re thinking about divorce.  What lead you here?  What are your goals?  What are your concerns?  What are you looking for?   By starting here, we get a much better idea of who you are as a person.  With that foundation, we can then explain the law and your options.  

But My Spouse Told Me…

Very often when we meet with someone, they come in with a pre-conceived notion of how thing would work based on what their spouse, friend or family member told them.  Almost as often, it turns out what they were told is not accurate.  Sometimes the bad information was given intentionally, sometimes the bad information was just a mistake.  The important thing to know is that what you’ve heard may not be the way things are. By meeting with an experienced family law attorney, you can be sure that you’re getting accurate information so that you can make the best decision.

Will My Attorney Force Me to Get Divorced?

Absolutely not!  We often meet with clients who are considering a divorce or separation, but are not sure.  Sometimes they worry that we will push them one way or another.  Other than relationships involving abuse, a good attorney generally will not encourage you to get divorce.  Rather, we will listen to you to find out what your concerns are and what your goals are.  A divorce or separation is not always the answer.  At the end of the day, we are here to serve your needs, and to advise you.  We are not here to tell you what to do.

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About the author

About Gerry Gebhart

Gerry graduated from Drexel University magna cum laude with a degree in Information Systems and a minor in Business Administration. After working as a consultant in the intermodal transportation industry, Gerry enrolled in and graduated from Temple University’s Beasley School of Law, where he specialized in trial advocacy. Prior to joining LaMonaca Law, Gerry practiced Family Law privately while working at the Public Defender’s office. Gerry quickly gained a reputation as a savvy trial attorney, securing numerous successful trial verdicts, eventually resulting in his being elected as president of the Delaware County Criminal Defense Lawyers’ Association. Gerry lives in Middletown Township where he is active in his local firehouse as both a firefighter and member of the board of directors.