Many unhappy couples choose to remain married and delay divorce because they are “staying together for the kids.” They believe it best for their children to be raised in an intact family rather than being a child of divorce. While it may be true that children thrive in complete, happy families, staying together for the kids may cause more harm than good.
Unhappily married couples typically live with a fair amount of conflict, unrest, and tension. They argue, they mock one another, they compete for the affection of their children. Often, these parents are, understandably, so preoccupied with the conflict in the marriage and their own unhappiness that it is impossible for them to be the best parent they can be when it comes to their children.
Children are a product of the environment in which they are raised; if that environment is riddled with tension, arguments, and an undercurrent of animosity, it will have an effect on how they grow up and the decisions and choices they make as an adult.
Conversely, if a child is raised in two separate households, while this will certainly be disruptive and perhaps not the ideal situation for a child, it will serve the child better to grow up with the love and support of two parents who are not living under the weight of a crumbling marriage.
Children are resilient, adaptable, and far more aware than adults give them credit for. The impact of a divorce on a child will only be as negative as his or her parents allow it to be. If a mother and father discuss the divorce and separation in a direct way without animosity and work together to co-parent and raise their children, it is more beneficial than remaining together for the sake of the children at the cost of raising children without two fully present parents.
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