Should You Tell Your Employer That You are Getting a Divorce?

Should You Tell Your Employer That You are Getting a Divorce?

By: Melissa Towsey, Esquire

In our  technologically sophisticated world where we post, pin and Instagram our most intimate thoughts and feelings, the question remains – how much do you tell your employer about your divorce?

In many instances, you will have to inform your Human Resources Department of changes in health care or insurance beneficiaries. It may also be prudent to inform your direct supervisor that, while you will maintain your performance, you may need additional time off for court hearings, meetings with your attorney or other court-ordered evaluators. The key here is to be honest but assure your employer that you expect to fulfill all your current employment obligations and responsibilities.

Once you have disclosed your divorce or custody case, the next question is how much should you tell? A good rule of thumb is to keep as many personal details out of the workplace as possible. Do not use your personal email account or telephone to contact your estranged spouse. Try to minimize the impact he or she has on you while in the workplace.

However, if you have co-worker that make up your emotional support system, consider confiding in them with more detailed information about your situation. That being said, be aware of these conversations that may occur in the lunchroom and can be overheard by the office gossip.

For most of these cases, your own personal sense of propriety will suffice. Remember that several aspects of a divorce, such as child support, child custodyspousal support, and equitable distribution, depend on you maintaining a steady source of income.

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About the author

About Melissa Towsey

Melissa graduated from the University of Virginia in 2002 with a double major in Sociology and Foreign Affairs. After working for several years as a paralegal in Washington, D.C., she attended The University of Villanova School of Law and graduated in 2010. During law school, Melissa was involved in several public interest organizations and published an article in Villanova’s Environmental Law Journal, “Something Stinks: The Need for Environmental Regulation of Puppy Mills” 21 Vill. Envtl. L.J. 159 (2010) After law school, Melissa clerked for the Honorable Thomas G. Parisi, Administrative Judge of the Criminal Division in the Court of Common Pleas, Berks County. Melissa is the supervising attorney of the firm’s Appellate Unit. The Appellate Unit handles all aspects of the appellate process for family law cases as well as advanced research within the firm. Melissa and her husband, Paul, reside in Montgomery County with their two cats Wembley and Gobo. In her spare time, she enjoys audiobooks, barbeques, and watching action movies.