The Negative Impact of Using Kids as Pawns During Custody Battles


The Negative Impact of Using Kids as Pawns During Custody Battles

Custody battles can be an incredibly difficult and emotionally charged process, and the tension between two parents during a custody battle is understandable. Unfortunately, some parents will use their children as pawns in order to gain leverage or “get back at” the other parent during the custody process. This is not only unethical, but also has serious psychological and emotional effects on the children involved. Let’s take a closer look at why this is so damaging and what steps should be taken to ensure the best interest of kids in these situations.

The Effects on Children

Using children as pawns during a custody battle can have long-term psychological effects that can last well into adulthood. It often causes feelings of guilt, confusion, and betrayal for children who may feel like they are being used by one or both parents to score points against each other, rather than focusing on what is best for them. This can lead to feelings of powerlessness and low self-esteem that can carry over into other areas of life, such as relationships and school performance.

Children may also experience difficulty forming attachments and trusting adults who try to form relationships with them after experiencing their parents using them as tools in their own disputes. They may also become withdrawn or even defiant if they feel like trust has been violated or if they do not feel supported by either parent during this time.

Best Interest of the Child

Parents should always keep in mind that it is never acceptable to use their children as pawns during a custody battle. The court prioritizes the best interest of the child when making decisions regarding custody arrangements, which means that any attempt to manipulate or control a child’s feelings towards either parent could have severe consequences when it comes time for those decisions to be made. Parents should focus on creating an environment where their child feels safe, secure, and respected—not one where they are manipulated or pressured into taking sides.

The bottom line is, that no matter how heated things get between two people going through a divorce or custody dispute, using kids as pawns is never acceptable behavior. Not only does it create unnecessary stress for children who already have enough on their plate due to their parents’ separation, but it can also lead to long-lasting psychological issues down the road.  At LaMonaca Law, we pride ourselves on providing full service to our clients, including making arrangements with professionals and counselors to ensure the health and well-being of our clients and their children.  If you feel as though your child is being used as a pawn in a custody battle or divorce, help us help you, and your child, by contacting us today!

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