Tips for Conflict-Free Custody Exchanges


Tips for Conflict-Free Custody Exchanges

Even if co-parents are amicable following a divorce or separation, they still may harbor feelings of bitterness or resentment. Fortunately, there are some tips you can use to assist in a smooth custody exchange.

Pick up your children on time, or be sure to have them available on time. Arriving late or refusing to show up is an easy way to start an argument and create tension. Being late for the exchange suggests that you do not respect your former partner’s time. Being late can interrupt your children’s schedule, as well. If you may be late or need to reschedule, you should let the other parent know as soon as possible.

Exchange the children in public. Most people want to avoid making a scene in public, so if you and your former partner have a tumultuous relationship, this may be the best choice for you. Public custody exchanges usually encourages everyone to be on their best behavior. Choose a neutral and central location to both parties. The mall, a coffee shop, or a gas station where you know there are surveillance cameras are all options.

Communication is key. Overnights, visitation, and custody exchanges often require logistical planning. Coordinating extracurricular activities and events necessitates regular communication between parents. Modern technology provides us with more ways to communicate than ever before. Text messages, email, and other online services allow you to avoid direct confrontations. Websites such as Our Family Wizard offer online scheduling services and tools for parents so that everyone is on the same page. There are dozens of smartphones apps that track parenting schedules, activities, and events.

There are plenty of ways to ensure that your custody exchanges are conflict-free. However, if you need to modify your custody schedule or you do not have a custody order, call our team today. Remember to like and follow us on social media for more tips.

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About Ashley Valdes

Having been raised in a true “modern family”, Ashley Valdes is well versed in difficult family dynamics. She understands that families, and particularly children, will not only survive a separation or divorce, but can thrive afterward. Her personal and professional experience enables her to better understand clients’ needs and challenges. After attending law school in Florida, Ashley returned to Delaware County to serve the community that helped raise her. She began her career in civil and criminal litigation before practicing family law exclusively, which helped her to approach each case with a creative and effective solution. Ashley is licensed to practice law in Pennsylvania and she is an active member of the Delaware County Bar Association. Ashley resides in Delaware County with her husband, two sons, and two rescue dogs. She is an avid Philadelphia sports fan. In her free time she enjoys spending time with family, listening to podcasts, and traveling.